I wrote this in December 2008 and it still has relevance to me this day
Dealing with grief ~ a good way to remember those we love
Today is the 2nd anniversary of my mother’s passing and who knows what has prompted me to write this, other than to pass on some thoughts. (or maybe just some personal ramblings)
There’s a line in a song
‘ you left me here, to remind me of you’ and that to me is a comfort
~ as long as I am here, so will she.
and hopefully I can display those wonderful qualities she taught me by the way she was and the way she still is within me.
We don’t have to be sad, angry or alone when we remember those who have left us ~ I’m not ~ I miss her and speak to her most days and listen. Not just with my ears but with an awareness and I seem to understand.
But how can you remember in a way that makes you feel ok?
This is what I do.
I think of a good time(s) with her and see it as if I’m looking through my own eyes, back in that special memory.
I’m there again, seeing what I saw, hearing what I heard and I feel the good feelings I had and every good memory is the same way. I make it that way because that’s how I want it to be.
If any memory isn’t of a good time, I see it differently. I see myself in the memory, (as if it’s a movie with me in it) over there and I make it smaller and darker, I make it still and move it away from me ~ any not so good feeling just diminish
This is not the only way but a sure way to remember what you want, how you want to and it’s good to remember because……………..
‘ you left me here, to remind me of you’
Enjoy your every heart beat